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Sympathy and Empathy

Someone asked me do you like sympathy?

I said not really …..

He said- you don’t like sympathy….!!!

That made me think. It is true. I have always hated being sympathised with.

It was about wanting to give my best, so that I can accept the outcome with the knowledge that I tried my best.

It was about wanting to avoid sympathy. Because my experience tells me that sympathy is harmful for growth.

Empathy is important, even essential when we live and thrive in society.

But sympathy….????

It makes you the object of pity.

It lowers society’s expectations of you.

It lowers your own expectations from yourself.

It makes you complacent in whatever you do, because since you take yourself to be someone with whom a lot of injustice has happened, any little thing you do becomes a major accomplishment. It hinders your potential to succeed in life.

I now think that the best of outcomes are reached when one does not chicken out. When one faces things bravely. When one takes challenges head on. When one explores the full range of her/ his potential. Because that is what being human is about. To be brave. To not let things pull you down.

As Hannah Gadsby said in her powerful show Nanette-

“To yield and not break, that is incredible strength.”

Go ahead, find that incredible strength within you. Let nothing break you…….!!!!!

Cognitive Dissonance Or Strong Belief

Some times people hold a core belief that is very strong.

When they are presented with evidence that work against that belief the new evidence cannot be accepted.

It creates a feeling that is extremely uncomfortable, called cognitive dissonance .

And because it is so important to protect the core belief, they will rationalize, ignore and even deny anything that doesn’t fit in with that core belief.

But human mind is provided with a power to think and question and it is necessary for every person who stands for progress to criticise every tanet of old beliefs and challenge the efficacy of it.

He has to analyse and understand all the details.

And if after all rigorous reasoning, he come to any conclusion, then his faith should be appreciated.

Because reason is the guiding principle of his life.

But “blind faith” is disastrous. It deprives a man of his understanding power and makes him reactionary.

Any person who claims to be a realist has to challenge the truth of old beliefs.

Because if faith cannot withstand the onsluaght of reason, it collapses……!!!!!!!!

Is truth relative? Does absolute truth exist?

Truth is way more relative than people tend to believe it to be.

But it is both ….
An absolute truth would be something that is absolutely true independently of anything, no matter what. It’s absolutely true always.
Existence exists would be such a truth. It always exists, no matter what, timelessly just is.
A relative truth would be a a perspective that is true from one angle but not from another, while from the other angle something else is equally true
For example: Does the sun radiate heat?Absolutely, this is a physical and verifiable fact. Is the sun hot? Yes, and no. It’s certainly hot to those of us living on Earth; but it’s downright frigid compared to the temperatures of the Big Bang.
As the absolute truth you’re seeking gets more and more abstract, it becomes harder to find an expression of it that is not made relative by the expression itself. For example, for centuries Sufi mystics have argued whether God is found in all things, or all things are God. There are compelling religious foundations for both viewpoints; but since the subject (God) is so abstracted from human experience, the terminology used to explore the problem means that even when such statements are relatively true, no one of them is absolutely so. The absolute truth must be approached in the union of these perspectives.……..


The Day of Arbaeen marks forty days after the Day of Ashura, the day Hussain ibn Ali was martyred in the Battle of Karbala. Hussain ibn Ali was a 7th century revolutionary leader whosacrificed his life for social justice.

What is The Day of Arbaeen?

The arabic word ‘Arbaeen’ (pronounced Arr-ba-een) translates to forty (ie fortieth day). The traditional period of mourning in Islamic culture is forty days. Millions of people around the world mark the Day of Arbaeen by mourning the tragedy that befell Hussain ibn Ali, his family and his companions.

{Hussain ibn Ali is buried today in the land of Karbala, Iraq, where millions of visitors come annually to pay homage to him.}

The History of Arbaeen Day

It is said that the Day of Arbaeen is the day on which Hussain’s family returned to the land of Karbala, to properly bid farewell to the fallen heroes and finally grieve for their loved ones.

The Day of Arbaeen, today

Today, almost 1400 years later, the Day of Arbaeen is mourned by millions of people around the world. It is marked as a day to pay tribute to the sacrifice of Hussain for social justice. Typically, on this day people organise large marches in cities across the world to symbolise the eternal nature of Hussain’s revolution and to show they stand for social justice, honour and peace.

In recent years – after the fall of the Saddam regime – a tradition of walking 80km from Najaf (the resting place of Hussain ibn Ali’s father) to Karbala has been reignited. Every year since, the number has been rising steadily from 17 million pilgrims to at least 25 million. People from all walks of life and all corners of the globe make the journey, despite the imminent threat of terrorists who have vowed to attack the pilgrims.

Along the 80km stretch from Najaf to Karbala volunteers distribute free food and drinks to those undertaking the pilgrimage, as well as offering places to relax, wash and sleep. Arbaeen Day is now the largest annual peaceful gathering in the world, with numbers set to increase significantly every year.



Every tyrannical regime tries their very best to control the narrative of events. In today’s world that may mean flooding social media with fake news generated by bots, whereas in the twentieth century, it meant taking control of television and radio broadcasts, either directly, through state-sponsored broadcasting, or indirectly, by closing down alternative channels and stations till the only voice remaining was an echo of whatever the regime of the time wanted.

Perhaps the most famous example of state propaganda was Nazi Germany’s. Hitler spent three chapters of his book Mein Kampf discussing propaganda, reflecting his belief that one of the reasons Germany lost WW1 was hugely superior British propaganda. In opposition, the Nazis established newspapers and magazines, but once in power, the Third Reich established a formal Ministry of Propaganda, with Joseph Goebbels at the helm.

Hitler’s ideas were nothing new. Even in the days before technology allowed radio and television broadcasts, autocratic rulers tried to silence political opponents and those who were considered a threat. The Ummayads were no different. Why was Hussain’s camp rerouted and forced towards the desert of Karbala and killed there? Yazid, the tyrannical ruler of his time, had no wish for the battle to take place in or near a major city, where more people would become aware of the situation. He wanted Hussain’s message to die with him, in the isolated and sparsely populated desert.

And this may well have been the case, had it not been for Hussain’s sister Zainab. After the battle, the women and children of Hussain’s camp were taken as captives, and led on the long route between Karbala (present day Iraq) and the Caliph’s capital in Shaam (present day Damascus).

When they reached there, they were presented in front of the Caliph, Yazid, who was surrounded by his viziers, ambassadors and army generals. He mocked the prisoners and revelled in his superiority. A man present in Yazid’s court asked the Caliph if he could take one of the women prisoners as his wife. At this point, Zainab objected in fury, and took her opportunity to speak truth to power. She berated the Caliph for all his wrongdoing, reminded him of his family’s humble beginnings, and condemned his actions in Karbala.

She lit a fire in the hearts of the people, and in the years that followed, there were many uprisings against the Ummayid caliphs, culminating in their overthrow a few decades later. Many of these uprisings evoked the memory of Hussain and cited his struggle as the inspiration for their uprising against the same tyrannical and oppressive dynasty. Till today, uprisings and revolutions against tyranny the world over, cite Hussain as their inspiration.

Had it not been for the struggle of Zainab in the court of Yazid and the years afterwards, these people may have never had known of the revolution of Hussain. His message may have, as Yazid had intended, died with him in the desolate plains of Karbala. Zainab was the bridge between that sacrifice on the day of Ashura, and those who are inspired by Hussain till today. This is even more impressive when you consider the environment in which she lived: a backwards, patriarchal, male-dominated society, where women were concubines and slaves. In the face of this systemic oppression, for a woman to stand up and speak the truth to power, to defy the most powerful man in the empire, and to spread the message her brother gave his life for, shows Zainab’s bravery and courage.


The Fear Of Unknown

Is it possible that its not the change that we fear but the unknown that lies beyond it ?

And here’s a question that I would like you to consider,

What if the unknown was

nothing more than

a misunderstood resource ?

Everything we have ever learned, and everything we have achieved, was once an unknown.

Whatever we can’t control we automatically consider a threat. But when we perceive the unknown as a threat, because we think we can’t control it, we instantly make a decision to stop moving towards it.

The irony here, is that we avoid the unknown to avoid loosing control.

When infact, it is the unknown that has the power to grant us the control we seek.


Sometimes it can be overwhelming to watch the news and see the constant disasters and tragedies occurring worldwide. So overwhelming in fact, that it wouldn’t be unreasonable for us to wonder, as we sometimes do, to what degree it is our responsibility to help. In addition, society today is increasingly fractured and divided, with people split across fiercely defended lines, when it comes to society, politics and religion.

Is giving to those in need simply a good deed, or is it rather a moral imperative and responsibility?

Ultimately none of us exist in a vacuum. Any success we have is built on the back of others. We have worked hard for anything we’ve gained, but ultimately our education depended on others. Our health depends on others. Our upbringing depended on others. We stood on the shoulders of others when we were in positions of relative weakness, and now we’re in a position of relative strength, it is absolutely our moral duty to pay it forward and help others; just as others paid it forward to help us.

We cannot guarantee our future material success or health, despite how much we may work and plan for it. We can strive as hard as we are able, but ultimately there are and will always be variables that are not in our hands – that may one day mean we too are in need of the help of others.

Ultimately, which society would you rather be a part of? It may be idealistic, but imagine a society where everyone feels like one body. When one organ hurts, the others are also affected. If your hand hurts, your brain can’t and doesn’t ignore it. If we see others in need, suffering, elsewhere, to feel that as acutely as if it were happening on our doorstep, to fully understand our responsibilities, and to truly help those in need.

Soureces :


Wherever we turn, it seems that we are divided more than ever before. Societies and countries all across the world are riven by hate and disunity.

In this kind of world, sacrifice and selflessness are more important than ever. Acknowledging that perhaps what is best for society may not that which is best for your personally, is the bedrock upon which our societies are built. Some of the core principles we take for granted, are based on this: the idea of the welfare state, the idea of universal healthcare, even of charity.

Hussain once said that the best of people is he who gives to one who cannot ever pay him back. That is true sacrifice. Giving because giving is good. Helping because helping is good. Being selfless because it’s the right thing to do.

If we all tried a little harder to do the right thing because it was the right thing, then it wouldn’t matter to us if our gestures weren’t reciprocated, if our actions weren’t acknowledged. It wouldn’t matter to us if the other side continued with poor behaviour, because ultimately, we have sacrificed for a greater cause: for the good of society. In a world riven by differences and hate, what better way to try to overcome our divisions than by selflessness and sacrifice.


Random Thought #3

Statements like “every man must respect women, but every women must deserve it” are lousy and smack of a superiority complex in men.

“Love and respect a women.

Look to her not only for comfort, but for strength and inspiration and the doubling of your intellectual and more powers.


Random Thought #2

Atheists believe that God doesn’t exist,

Theist (religious person) believes God does exist.

Both of them believe in something which they really doesn’t know and doesn’t have an understanding of.

Confidence without clarity is the trait both are exhibiting (being a religious I shouldn’t say both). Which is a disaster.

Learn to accept which you don’t know. Say you don’t know and enlightened yourself. Be fully alive.