A old man ask to a young man: Why you eat fish.
He replied ” because I love the fish.
The old man answers: Oh you love the fish that’s why you took it out of the water and killed it and boiled it. Then he said don’t tell me you love the fish infact you love yourself and because the fish tastes good to you therefore you took it out of the water and killed it and eat it. So much what is love is like this fish love.
A young couple falls in love what does that mean. Is they really in love?
No. That means that he saw in this women someone who he felt could provide him with all of his physical and emotional needs and same as she thought in this man somebody that she feels write all this needs and that was love.
But Reality is each one is looking for their own needs.
Its not love for the others infact the other person becomes a vehicle for my gratification.
A philosopher right said ;
People makes serious mistake in thinking that you give to those whom you love and the real answer is you love those to whom you give.
And this point is if I give something to you
I have invested myself in you,,,,and since self love is given as everybody love themselves. Now that a part of me is becoming you but there’s a part of me in you that I love.
So true love is a love of giving not a love of receiving.